Tag Archives: perspective

Keep It Simple

22 Jun

It’s Saturday morning, birds are chirp-yelling, husband is snoring, and I am all out of my Keurig coffees (boo!)

I would not classify myself as a “morning person”, and neither would my husband or sister or mom or anyone who has ever heard my alarm go off a billion times before I finally muster up the motivation to part ways with my amazing bed (because is IS an amazing bed). But I have noticed this disturbing trend lately  where I magically awaken at times that are generally considered “pretty freakin early” (umm… SATURDAY?!) Not. Cool. So fine, my eyes may be open, and my brain may be on, but that does NOT mean I have to get out of bed. After a few seconds I realize this could get boring, so I grab my phone and somehow end up on Facebook – don’t act like you don’t do it too – you know what I’m talking about… Oh, what time is it… oh that’s early… oh maybe I should check my email… wait, what is that shiny blue ‘f’ icon… I think I must click on it… MUST. CLICK. There’s really no way around it.

Anyways, during my early morning FB peruse, I came across this little gem of a quote via a friend of a friend’s cousin’s sister’s husband’s facebook friend’s twitter follower (close enough)–

“Don’t overcomplicate your life. Love God, love people, work hard & have fun! Most other stuff isn’t worth worrying about.” -Dave Willis

I like it. Simple. To the point.

Love God, Love People, Work Hard, Play Hard, The End. 

When you put it like that, it sounds somewhat easy to take on that mantra and manage that kind of lifestyle, but in reality (which is where WE live), it is in fact EASIER to lose perspective and lose sight of what truly matters in the midst of everyday life. As a female, and a wife, and a female, I dare say there are times when we get SO upset and caught up and worried about things that DO NOT MATTER – we are MASTERS at overcomplicating issues! (Is anyone shocked about this?) I know, I know, I cannot speak for ALL females and wives, as there are many with perfect relationships and perfectly shaped eyebrows who never yell or cry or poop (guys, beware).

crazy pills

Why do we overcomplicate? Why do we act the crazy ways we do at times? Is it selfishness? Am I so caught up in MY little world that is all about ME that I can’t see anything or anyone else? Do I REALLY care about other people? Do I SHOW them? Am I more concerned with what activities I am doing rather than who I am doing them with? Am I placing importance on the wrong things? Do I even have self-awareness? I am more concerned with myself than others? And am I OKAY with that? Isn’t there more to life than being really really really ridiculously good looking??

ridiculouslygoodlooking

It is time to adjust our mindsets, realign our attitudes, and start seeing things differently. It’s like wearing those tinted sunglasses that make everything look green. It’s time to start viewing our relationships, our work, and our world differently. It is time to start living with purpose, on purpose. Be intentional with your relationships, your work, and your life. Identify value in these areas, and then add more value to them. Because seriously people, some things in life are important and worth investing in and adding value to, and heck, even getting upset over. Other things are not.

Un-Pimp ze Attitude

10 Oct

Help! Im drowning in the sea of Strategic Finance!! Its true. I very much do not like this class. Very much. Buh. Its the worst. In fact, it may be my least favorite class ever (no offense to you smartie pants out there who actually like/understand financial hooplah – also, WHY?!?) To quote the Plain White T’s: “Hate is a strong word, but I really really really don’t like you.” So boo on you, Finance class! *spit on the ground*

That’s right. Im complaining about school again. Don’t act like youre not used to it by now. You know youve missed hearing about my awesome procrastination skills and how much I loathe studying. Yes. You have missed it. I can tell.

But I shall say no more of that dreaded “F” word (for now) because, quite honestly, it depresses me. And I do not want to be depressy anymore. And I do not want to bore you with such depressy things. Thanks, but no thanks, Debbie Downer.

Instead, I shall try to tell you of more interesting and exciting and happy things, such as my new boyfriend, or my new haircut, or my new love of those salt and vinegar chips that come in that purple bag (SO yum!)

But srsly. I apologize for my bloggy absence. Things have been crazy / hectic / busy blah blah excuses excuses. Life happens. You know how it is.

So, in order to silence the silence (yeah, that’s right) I have decided to blog. Right now.

However, those of you who are still reading this may have noticed by now that I do not, in fact, have anything of importance to blog about. Well, to that I say, you are quite right. How very observant. But lets focus on the important things here. And the important thing here is that I am even blogging at all. For you. Whoever you are. Yes, a new blog has come. So just embrace it.

All this talk of being busy and doing crappy schoolwork and being in depressy moods has got me thinking lots of thoughts about attitude. I mean, if you think about it, attitude is actually really powerful. Like, really really powerful. It can change everything! It practically controls your mood – which in turn controls your whole outlook on the things that happen to/around you (life). Your whole day could be either completely ruined or completely awesome based solely on your attitude… your viewpoint… your perception.

So yeah, attitude. Lately, mine has been sucking. And while I can easily justify all the reasons for it, Id rather not. Id rather just stop.

Is that possible?

(haha that reminds me of this commercial from a while back that my friends and I used to quote all the time… “its definitely sucking”) :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xCIF6JF1O5U

and here’s 2 more bc I think they’re all awesome:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qgEvy60bZYI

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LuC6jeKjTdg&NR=1

Maybe instead of un-pimping your auto, you should un-pimp your attitude. Corny tie-in, I know, I know, but I just thought about it, and it works! I mean, come on, its the same thing! Replace your ridiculous, sucky attitude with an awesome one. V-Dub in the house… Oh Snap!

You are the only one who can change your own attitude. You can change your outlook on life, the way you see things, the position you take. Each morning is new. Each minute is new. A new chance to literally count your blessings, and start over with a fresh take on life. And you don’t have to wait to start over. It’s a choice you can make anytime, anywhere. A choice to gain a little perspective.

Sometimes we are limited more by attitude than by opportunities. – (Anonymous)

And that’s the heart of it. A sucky attitude is LIMITING! IT LIMITS YOU. It constrains you, holds you back from accomplishing all that you can. It skews your vision and causes you to see opportunities as hardships and obstacles to be avoided rather than a challenge that can be utilized to your advantage. We should be going for it! All in! Go big or go home. Don’t you want to live life to the fullest? To seize every moment and every opportunity to grow and become all you were meant to be? To live a life of joy and excitement rather than mundane and ordinary?

Confession: I so much want to be so much more than I currently am.

The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.  – (William James)

Its crazy to think we have the power to alter the course of our lives. Yes? Im not saying attitude adjustment is easy, Im just saying its worth it.

The interesting thing about changing attitude and perspective is how different it can be from one minute to the next, once you introduce a little more information. I mean, you think one way about something, and then you learn a little more about it, and it totally changes the way you were just thinking, almost instantly sometimes.

I recently started working in an insurance office, and there is a huge picture of the sinking Titanic on the wall. Its all beautiful and tragic and whatnot. And at first, I thought “How horrible! People are coming in to pay bills and are upset about money and all their other financial troubles (especially in this economy), and they look up and see the sinking Titanic?! Doesn’t that just scream ‘all hope is lost!’?” But then, today, I heard the real purpose for the picture (yes, there actually was one). It is used as a sot of visual tool. Nobody thought the Titanic would sink. It was referred to as “the unsinkable ship” –that God himself could not sink! And yet it did. You never think bad things are going to happen to you, or know when they will – all you can do is be as prepared as possible. And then, there was an instant shift in my perspective. My attitude was no longer slightly offended and depressed, but future-thinking and hopeful. You can choose to see a sinking ship or you can choose to see a lesson to be learned. Lost hope or found hope. It’s all about perspective. And perspective is powerful because it directly influences attitude.

Its usually once you know the whole truth that you begin to really understand and are “set free” as the Bible says. Our attitudes can so easily be the outcomes of our jumping-to-conclusions and assumptions (and we all know what happens when you assume… “you make an ass out of u and me!”) So really, seeking the truth in all situations kind of overlaps this whole attitude idea, because if you seek the truth, seek to understand and get to the core of things, then it changes your view of those things.

And the truth is, that you and I are blessed. Incredibly, ridiculously, abundantly blessed. Blessed above and beyond what we deserve. Im serious. Just look at the world around you. There is an abundance of good and wonderful things in your own personal life. Yes, there is. And when you start to literally count those blessings, its hard to be all depressy. In fact, its hard not to be grateful and overwhelmed with the love that flows freely and constantly from God to His children.

I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you … we are in charge of our Attitudes. – (Swindoll)

It’s a choice, every day. One that we have to make a conscious effort to make. Every. Day. Sometimes twice a day. Sometimes 10+ times a day. But I promise you, when you refocus on whats truly important, remember how very blessed you are, and allow your attitude to reflect the joy that Christ has given you, the Love that lives inside, you wont regret it. (I need to remind myself of this more often.)

You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. – (Ephesians 4:22-24)

Each day is a gift. And today is really all we have.

Time to un-pimp ze attitude. (hehe)

a disappointing perspective

3 Dec

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. – Romans 8:28

 

So, do I believe God is going to work all things out for good? Sure. But who’s good are we talking about here? Mine? Because if its MY definition of a good outcome, things are going to turn out a certain way, just how I want them to, when I want them to (ASAP), because that is what I think the best outcome would be. So I desire this outcome, I put my hope in this outcome, and what do I get? Disappointed.

Ouch.

But why am I surprised?  I know God’s plans are 2834720394 times better than my own.  I mean, lets be serious, He actually knows the future, has all the facts, and is ALL-knowing. Omniscient, if you will. He knows my needs, hopes, dreams, passions, and deepest desires of my heart.  He created me with those things.

So yeah, I should know better. But the truth is, I like to be in control of my own life. Shocking, I know. So as I keep trying in vain to get God to do what I want, I become more and more disheartened, disappointed, and discontent with, well, my life in general. Then I begin to feel broken and worthless, getting swallowed up by frustration and paralyzed by my own emotions.

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life. – Proverbs 13:12

 

Hope deferred. Hope that is lost, unfulfilled, delayed, not realized. It hurts. It makes the heart ache.

How do you survive this state? Not with the snap of your fingers, the turn of a page, or good night’s sleep. It’s a process. A long process that involves a digging deeper into the Truth of who God IS. Maybe you have to change your perspective a little. Take Him out of the box you smooshed Him in and learn something new about who he REALLY is, not just who you think He is or want Him to be.

Moving beyond disappointment is a continual decision, a determination, and a perseverance of moving deeper into the foundational truths of hope in Jesus Christ. It is choosing to believe that nothing is impossible with God. It is to believe persistently that God is able to turn negative situations into positive outcomes. It is to believe and hope for God’s best to result in any given circumstance. It is to believe the truth of God’s Word over the disappointment encountered. It is a trust built upon hope in the promises of God Who is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all that we could ask or hope! – Shirley Frey

 

God is an expert at making good out of bad. Transformation is kind of His specialty. So even when I make a mess out of things, He can and will be working behind the scenes with wise and loving motives to use my mess for His glory. His intentions are not to bring us harm or abandon us, but to love and care for us. He wants to give us the future we hope for (Jer 29:11).

When my hope is in Christ, it will never disappoint. God is a God of hope (Romans 15:13). When I take a step back and think about why I am disappointed, it is not because God failed to come through for me. It is because of people, circumstances, communication (or lack thereof), my own thoughts and my skewed beliefs and perspectives. When my hope is in these things, when I trust in these things, have expectations of these things, look forward to these things, desire and dream about these things, then I WILL BE let down. But when I hope, trust, expect, look forward to, desire, and dream about the things of the Lord, then I will begin to discover the truth of who He really is. And as I trust Him more and more for who He really is, I will be able to trust and abound in hope during the most challenging and difficult times.  

Its amazing what a change of perspective can do. Disappointment is really an opportunity to understand God more and to change our mindset about how He works.

Nuff said.