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Suit Up!

21 Jun

Wonderful Thursday night with my trusty laptop and sweet glass of wine… ahh, the stuff dreams are made of. Now if only this chair was a hottub.

The hubs is playing his new favorite video game on the computer in the next room. Apparently, IT IS CRAZY AWESOME and has robots and sounds like destruction. Love that nerd.

Speaking of destruction, tonight I made dinner. I will be the first to admit that I am not the best at domestical endeavors such as the creation of tasty foods. However, I DO believe I am smart enough to follow step-by-step directions.

Evidently, not so.

Who knew that picking the right substitute ingredients would be so crucial? Why did I even pick a recipe that required said substitutions? I have plenty of other ingredients that are supposed to actually go together to make actual meals! Why did I feel the need to give myself a personal kitchen challenge?? Boo on you, tricky recipe and your “prepared mustard” and other ingredients I tried to unsuccessfully exchange. Yes, the mistake was made before I even began… never really had a chance (do you feel sorry for me yet?). All was not lost though, thanks to my side of microwaveable steam-in-a-bag veggies (is that cheating? I don’t care because they are delicious). In the end, the meal was still totally edible AND I did not have to do the dishes. So, WIN.

All this talk of food and recipes makes me want to head over to Pinterest and get lost in time and space for about 23283794 hours. Seriously, time flies when you get sucked into Pinterest-world. There are so many interesting/pretty/delicious things to pin! But then I wonder, how do people have time to be so crafty? Or are these pins just inspiration that never actually make it into the light? And if so, isn’t that just depressing and the total opposite of the purpose of pinning?? Am I thinking too much about this??

Don’t get me wrong, I love pinning. It helps to inspire me and introduce me to the many possibilities of what could be. It drives me to dream. But it does not always drive me to act. And I don’t think I’m alone, here. I think that is where most of us get stuck.

Actions. Dude, those are hard sometimes. It’s one thing to talk about the plans, to create the goals, but it is completely another thing to take ACTION towards making those plans and goals a reality. Whether it is moving forward in your career, getting in shape, learning new skills, or asking out that girl you can’t stop bothering your friends about (seriously guys – not that hard to invite her to Starbucks), you WILL NOT MAKE IT unless you take a step (or 2 or 500) in that direction. This may sound like #DUH – but if you are facing this kind of “goal-setting vs goal-doing” dilemma, you totally get me right now. I know who you are (not really but you do).

So what ARE the next steps? Don’t get crazy. Just start with something doable for YOU. Something reasonable you can do today or every day or every week to move forward in the direction you want to go. Seek out opportunities, and decide to take them on. Then give yourself an “I am awesome and can totally do this one handed with my eyes closed” pep talk and exclaim– (in the words of the Legend-wait for it-DARY Barney Stinson)–

Challenge: Accepted.




El. Oh. Vee. E.

31 Jan


El. Oh. Vee. E.

What with Valentine’s Day coming up, everyone seems to be extra cynical about the whole love idea. Well, everyone who is single. Even the local radio is currently promoting the “Bitter Ball” for those not having “real” Valentine’s plans (which I do actually find pretty clever). Of course, you know its going to be mostly single people looking for hookups, but whatever.

And then there’s the common anti-Valentine’s way of talking about Feb 14th known as “Single’s Awareness Day.” I take issue with this because I don’t see Valentine’s Day as something only for couples. It’s a day about LOVE. And love can be shown to anyone, anywhere, anytime, in a billion different ways…. but that’s a soapbox for later on.

The thing is, at this stage in the love game (and by stage I mean age, and by age I mean 20-something singles), most of us have baggage the size of Texas filled with broken hearts and bittersweet memories (more bitter than sweet). Anyone who has ever loved or cared deeply about someone in a relationship that didn’t work out has come to some sad realizations about love not living up to fairytale expectations. And the result? Cynicism, bitterness, and self-pitty single awareness days.

After so many such experiences, its no wonder we begin to believe that love is a lie. But I came across this quote the other day:

“Love is not a lie. Love is the real deal. The problem is that love is human and its flawed, and despite all the songs and the poems, it does NOT heal all wounds.”

I like it, but I’m not sure if I completely agree with it though. I think OUR version of love is flawed, yes. I mean, God is love, right? And God is not flawed, right? And God does bring healing, right?

I guess I’m going to go ahead and assume that the love talked about in this quote is different than the kind God is. So maybe that is the bigger issue.

If I can learn to give the kind of love that God talks about, then maybe it WILL be a beautiful thing instead of an empty lie that leads to cynicism and bitterness. But I am still human, we all are, and we cannot show perfect love to everyone all the time, if ever. Humans are flawed. Humans break things. We break hearts, we break trust, we even break bones.




These are things I strive to show and yet, I do not really understand them. Frustrating. But I know I want to be a part of something bigger than myself, that I want my life to count and have purpose. That I don’t want to fade into the background. Real love is bigger than me. It changes things. So to me, its worth it to strive for that.

As TWLOHA promotes, “love is the movement” – and it IS. Because love is not a magical word full of fuzzy feelings that you can just throw around whenever you want. I mean, for some people it is. But REAL love is choice, its an action, its something you show and give and do. If love isn’t helping other people, isn’t benefiting anyone, then what’s the point? And is that even love?

So spending Valentine’s Day, a day that is supposed to be all about love, in a self-pitty “I’m all alone” party just doenst make sense to me.

For me, love has a lot to do with relationships – all kinds, not just romantic ones. The best way to show love is through genuine relationships with people. I think that is why I like the idea of authentic community so much. I am intrigued by the idea of being a part of a group of people that “do life together” as cliché as it sounds. People who look out for eachother and help eachother and share the truth of Christ and His love with one another in a real way – through actions and support and sound advice (the list goes on).

I want to be a part of a movement. A movement of love that continues to reach more and more people. A movement that introduces people into a growing relationship with Christ. A movement that makes a difference in the world and embraces the future He calls us to.

What would that look like? What would it look like if I deeply invested everything I am into this movement of sharing genuine love with others?