the opposite of love

17 Aug

So I have been obsessed with my new favorite band of the moment – Mumford & Sons. I was just introduced to them this past weekend… by 3 different people… in the same day (coincidence??) I don’t know how it took me so long to “discover” them, but I’m thankful that it finally happened. I love their music.

There’s this one song in particular called “Sigh No More” (the title track of their latest album) that I just love because of these lyrics:

“Love that will not betray you, dismay or enslave you, it will set you free – be more like the man you were made to be…”

They paint a beautiful, powerful picture of love –but it’s not one that everyone has experienced. Some of us are fooled by what we think is love, only to realize later that it was destructive and controlling. For someone that has been deeply hurt by so-called “love” (something disguised as love) it can be hard to become a believer in the idea reality of love as a good, loyal, and freeing type of experience.

But that’s exactly what love is.

Its empowering… freeing… overwhelming even. I mean, I am far from the expert here, but I do know that there is power in TRUE, transformational, life-changing, action-filled L. O. V. E.

Love is NOT a prison. Real love doesn’t make you feel trapped and insecure and weak. It does the opposite. It empowers you to be able to live to the fullest possible extent – to where you can be all of who you are meant to be, without feeling held back and without fear. There is no fear in love.

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” – I John 4:18

Sometimes we get confused and think that the opposite of love is hate. But the opposite of love is NOT hate, its FEAR. Love is trust. Fear is the total lack of trust.

God wants to meet us exactly where we are –He wants to drive out all of our fears with His perfect love… so that we have nothing left to fear! Because fear has to do with punishment. A lot of people view God as having a list of rights and wrongs, punishing those who do wrong and only accepting those who do right. But God is not only on the side of those who have it all together. God is on MY side. Your side. The side of sinners and the side of those who fail and screw up and get overlooked. God’s love is about grace, not punishment. Its about bringing people together, not division.  His perfect love drives out fear – we have been forgiven, accepted, redeemed. Its about grace.

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2 Responses to “the opposite of love”

  1. drew August 18, 2010 at 8:49 am #

    Did I mention that you’re awesome?

    No, I’m serious.

  2. Alessandra September 7, 2010 at 10:58 am #

    Love and miss you Kadi!! Great words, and awesome message!! Thanks 🙂

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